Published on August 29th, 2012 | by TGHS Crew0
Good Sex In Gay Salt Lake City?
Where can I find good sex in gay Salt Lake City?
I engage in frank conversations about sex on a daily basis. As the Utah AIDS Foundation’s HIV Prevention Specialist there are days where the highly sexual nature of my job leaves me feeling much like Tom Cruise after a long day of filming on the set of “Eyes Wide Shut.” In truth I love to talk about sex. I think there are few things as interesting as the intimate, fun, potentially awkward, and largely primal act of getting your freak on.
Being comfortable with sex, and the fact that it happens (a lot), was not something that came easily for me, nor does it seem to be something many of us are comfortable talking about without a few drinks. As a young, awkward, religious kid growing up in the suburbs of Davis County I couldn’t say “penis” without giggling. Yes, giggling. It wasn’t until I spent some time talking to strangers about their sex lives that I developed a more mature, less giggly, appreciation for sex.
It was also in these conversations that I came to realize that there is a lot of bad sex happening in Salt Lake City. I don’t mean “morally questionable” sex; I’m talking about boring textbook sex. You know what I mean: sex that leaves you wanting more, sex that gets all over the sheets, sex that’s marked by terrible kissing and penetrated by awkward, medically accurate questions (“would you like me to touch your rectum?”)
Of course this is the part where I’m supposed to make the connection between “good sex” and “safer sex”, but I’m just not going to. Yes, I absolutely believe that some of the best sex is safer sex. With safer sex you can have all the fun of “riding that circus pony” without the worry of HIV and STIs. The Utah AIDS Foundation is a great resource in that arena and we’re more than happy to help. Perhaps more important than making the connection between safer sex and good sex is distinguishing between the sex that we’re having and the sex that we always want to have.
Anecdotal evidence suggests that the sexual revolution of the 60’s was marked by a great deal of sex, but not necessarily sex that people enjoyed. What passed for revolutionary humping was all quantity with only a smattering of quality. I worry we’re still stuck in that rut. For maximum health and orgasmic pleasure I think this is a problem we need to address. What’s it going to take for us to start having the greatest sex ever? Do we need to talk less or more between the sheets? Do we need to try harder or just relax? As a community do we need to address the feelings we have about the sex we’re having and the sex we think others are having? I’m not sure. But I’m hopeful that Salt Lake City, with its already notorious gay community, can make it on the map as the place for great sex.